Too much i dont want to forget!

This isnt really much of an update. though a little. granted doing 2 posts in 1 day is a big step for me. mostly i just wanted to post a bunch of pictures. I sure love my little family and we have changed a lot in the last week.

Ryker has grown so much as a big brother. but regressed a little as to be expected. He was doing so well potty training and now wets his pants at least once a day. we are trying to figure out what can motivate him to stay dry but its a work in progress. he loves to look at rex and hold him occasionally. mostly loves to play with us and wants us involved with him a little more often than before.

rylie. oh rylie. I love her so much but she is a feisty one. since rex has come she is a little more defiant and definitely testing boundaries. she is the instigator in most rambunctious behavior. since rex has come ryker and rylie spend 2-3 hrs playing in their room once we put them down for bed. we often walk in and rylie is on rykers bed. or racing from the wall and slamming into the door. she runs up to us with a big smile on her face. we try to be stern. let her know its bed time. but ryker doesnt do much to discourage her. he laughs and plays with her. they both look out the window and bang on the blinds. we have raised the blinds now. rylie loves to lay on the bed and kick her feet on the wall. thats a big no no. it is so loud in the other room. wakes up poor grandma and rex. we pulled rykers bed away from the wall so they would stop, but now they just do it on rylies bed. ugh. we are working on that. for now im sorry to any visitor that comes and stays in that room. its a work in progress to get them to stop.

anyways back to rylie. she is so sweet with rex. when she sits next to us she wants to hold him. we bring him over and she snatches him out of our arms practically. we still help holding his head, but she loves to wrap her arms around him and will even give him a little kiss. she laughs at him when he squeaks and loves to watch him in the car. she does want a lot more attention though. after a day or 2 of being very confused and frustrated we realized she just needs some extra love. so we have learned to hold her more. focus more on her in the mornings. let her sit with us and get down on her own terms. its still a juggle sometimes especially around dinner time or when rex is eating and justin needs to take care of both kids. but we are learning! still adjusting right? sometimes all 3 kids are crying and there is little we can do about it.

here are some pics from the first week with rex.

ryker and rylie first holding rex

we had a fun shopping date with just rylie. she loved it. it was good for both mom and dad to spend some one on one time with her. she got some cool new sunglasses!

first bath at home!

dad makes the coolest train tracks. this is more bland than most. but ryker always asks him to make one. 

our first attempt at tummy time. we spent most of it eating our arm

such a sweet boy

motorcycle pic. we have to have one with all our boys. 

sleeping with dad

justin at 2 days old on the left and rex on the right. i thought ryker and justin looked really similar. and they do. but rex maybe even more so!

rylie chillin in rex's bouncer

sweet kisses from big brother

he fits so well in rykers dump truck

the latch broke (too long ago) on our car seat so we decided we want our kids to be safe and got rex a new one. both kids had to try them out again. they dont fit as well as they used to. haha

she finally let me put a ponytail in her hair! it looks horrid but i was just impressed that she let me put it in and kept it there for 5 min! also her face is hysterical 

boys playing on the bed while dad cuts his hair

fun slide at the park

we went on a picnic on sat as a family. just a little outdoor time. 

staring lovingly at grandma. she has been so good to keep us happy all night long for the last week. 

sunday i tried again with the ponytail. it looked a lot better. with her sunglasses she just looks like such a diva

my sweet boy

justin broke out his old RC car and the kids loved it!

playing with dad

fun on the slide at the park. 

Rex Keith

okay, It has been a little over a week since little Rex joined our family. He has been a wonderful addition and we are so happy he is here. It has definitely been an adjustment, but still so great. I wanted to write down his story before it got too much longer and I forgot. Though Im sure some of the details are already a little fuzzy.

Well tuesday morning a little before justin got up for work i woke up with some contractions. I tried to ignore them and not get too excited, but when they continues to come I started timing them. they were pretty irregular and would come every 5-10 min. but nothing too intense. I did tell justin that they were continually coming. yes He can still go to work but maybe keep his phone on loud in case I needed to call. Also these contractions were only consistently coming because i was laying down and not trying to stop them. I was a little disappointed when I got up to get Ryker and Rylie and they slowed down and went away for most of the day. I was so ready to have this baby out i was sad that i got my hopes up. They picked up again in the evening. a little stronger, but still manageable. We texted sis lawson from our ward to see if she would be available to potentially come over in the middle of the night if we decided it was time. she was fine with that and we headed off to bed to try and get some sleep. i woke up around midnight with stronger contractions. they were still irregular timing wise, but consistently coming even when i got up and walked around. went to the bathroom, etc. they were strong enough that i had to really focus to get through them, but i thought i was coping well even though they were painful.

Around 1 am we decided to call sis lawson and she got there about half an hour later. we made it to the hospital and i was trying to walk through and ignore my contractions. i would have one every 8 min or so, but if the interval was closer to 10 min they were pretty strong. They checked me at the hospital and i was 3 cm dialated. woohoo! i normally dont change from 1 cm unless i am in active labor so maybe this is the real thing! i hope so, i was hurting. they said they would monitor me for 2 hrs and see if i progressed then decide if they would keep me there. the nurse looked at me and said, your too happy in between contractions to really be in labor. um rude... of course im happy in between. thats not the painful part and my baby is coming. we sat in bed for a while. they helped me get up and walk around for a bit. when they checked me again around 430 they said little to no change, and my contractions had tapered off a little bit so they sent me home. I wanted to cry but saved that for the car ride home. I have never been sent home before, and i was tired and in a lot of pain. not what i wanted. plus i felt a little guilty for calling sis lawson in the middle of the night for nothing. oops...

so we went home and tried to do more there. we got a few more hours of sleep. well justin did, i got about 1 hr before i couldnt sleep in between anymore. justin stayed home from work and did a little from home. since they were pretty consistent even moving around he didnt want to leave 2 hrs down south and then have to drive back leaving me trying to wrangle 2 kids while im in active labor. I called my dr and scooted my apt up for that afternoon. since i was still having strong contractions i hoped that i would make my progress to 4 cm (where i usually stall and they need to break my water to progress) and he would send me to the hospital. to no avail. He said i was still about 3 cm and keep going! i thought about punching him in the face. he is a great guy and i really like him as my dr, but i was also so tired and really hurting. he kept joking that oh your induction on monday (5 days away) will be a cake walk  if this is where i am at! haha no... not funny. i cant do this for a week.

anyways i go home and cry a little more. Mom had tried to see if she could change her flight to wed instead of thursday but too many change fees and too many miles it just wasnt feasible. so i miss my mom, im hurting, I feel the drs and nurses are not listening to me when i say my body stalls at a 4! i wont progress without help! please help me! nope, i got nothing from them. As the evening went on my contractions got stronger and stronger. They were still coming every 10 min or so. I never got to that 2-3 min apart. lasting for a min range that they always want you to be before you come in. I never got that far with ryker. rylie was induced so i dont know for her. but i knew thats not how my body worked! according to their guidelines i would never be ready to go to the hospital.

That night i called the hopital again. said hey my contractions are really strong. I cant breath through them anymore. my body is tensing up a lot and i cant relax. they are far apart, but i know i wont progress because my body doesnt do that without help! what is the likelihood that you will send me home? "well we really like them to be closer together. so if you cant progress you will most likely be sent home." thanks. thanks for nothing. i hate you a little bit. bye. i didnt say that, but i wanted to. so i hang up and cry some more. they are just going to send me home. i cant do this all night. im tired. im hurting. i dont know what to do. justin has been a huge help. being such a strong support when im having a breakdown/contraction. justin gives me a blessing to give me comfort and to know my body and know what to do. Tells me that my heavenly parents are proud of me and know what i am going through. they are here for me and know i can get through this. that helps a ton. i love blessings from him. he cries with me for a min after. he hates that im hurting so much just as much as i do. after that i go sit in the tub for a while. i make is super hot and have the shower head just sitting on my back while the tub fills up. it actually does help a bit. once i get out i am able to relax enough to sleep for about an hour.

I wake up at midnight again in lots of pain and lots of contractions. I try to take another bath. this time is doesnt relax me enough like it did before. my contractions are still super strong and i am really struggling through them. I go downstairs and try to distract myself and lay down. get a heating pad on my back. nothing seems to be working to take the edge off. **side note, i hate when the nurses ask, did you try a warm bath or tylenol? um. this is baby number 3. of course i tried everything. i wouldnt be calling you if it was a side ache. granted, im a lot hormonal, a little irritated and moderately cranky at this point. back to my story - i told myself i wanted to try to get through the night. i didnt want to have to call sis lawson again at 2 in the morning. not to mention i know i wont be far enough along and i definitely didnt want to be sent home again. but around 2 am i am just dying. i cant relax. im in my living room yelling into a pillow during contractions because i feel like im being ripped apart. i figure okay its probably time to tell justin. so during an in-between i go upstairs and make it to the side of the bed before another one hits. i try to be a litte quieter, but remember i am being ripped in half. back labor is no joke. worst thing ever. justin bolts upright can tell im not doing well and rushes over to hold me. i sure love that man. i am finally able to sit on the bed and i am just in hysterics. im sobbing and hyperventilating and just losing it. justin helps me through one or 2 more contractions. asks if we need to call sis lawson again. i somehow communicate that im scared of them turning me away. he looks at me and says with how much pain your in i wont let them. okay maybe my tear stained face is a good indicator baby is coming. so sis lawson comes over again. we get to the hospital about 3 am. they check me and im about 5 cm dialated! woohoo! i have never made it past 4. thats cool. all this pain and suffering is helping.

they call the on call dr and they decide to keep me. double woohoo! such a blessing to hear. i had been praying ever since we called sis lawson that they would keep me. that my body would have done enough to have them help. thank you thank you! so many prayers of gratitude after that. luckily for me since it was the middle of the night not much was going on so the lab people could come in right away to take their samples and prepare me for my epidural. perfect. stick me! they tried to take blood from my IV site, but that means they would have to get it right. blew veins in my arm and hand on my right arm. massive bruises. which pulsed and got worse every time the blood pressure cuff went off. and blew a vein in my wrist before a different nurse finally got it in my upper forearm on my left arm. i know my veins are bad. but a day or 2 later my arms look so beat up. i am still waiting for the bruises to go away. anyways it was super short and within half an hour the anesthesiologist was in coming to give me my epidural. i mentioned to justin that even though i was in a lot of pain. the contractions got a little easier once i knew relief was on the way.

so its probably about 430 by the time they get my epidural in. it was a good stick and they only had to do it once. better than rylies despite being done by the same person. haha. with this one is was different than what i felt (or didnt feel) with ryker and rylie. like with rykers epidural i couldnt move my legs. a few times i had to ask justin to help my move my knees or put my foot back on the bed because i couldnt lift it. but i could lift my hips just enough to help. and i did continue to feel contractions in my stomach. though much less painful. and the backlabor was completely gone. i never felt any pressure to push like i did with rylie. so another expereince to dwell on next time. haha. basically i could feel enough to not nap while i wait for baby boy to come, but i could rest and relax. they came and put in my catheter around 5-530 ish. also checked me again and said i was 7-8 cm dialated. cool! still havent broken my water. they havent given me any pitocin. so my body did this on its own. i didnt know it could do that. haha. ive never done it before. granted i also never want to be hurting like that either.i kept having huge waves of feeling flushed. like all of a sudden im hot and sweating profusely, nauseous, and a little dizzy. the nurse said it was my bodys response to being "in transition." even though i was relaxed (mostly) with an epidural. either way it was weird and it made me feelsuper odd and i didnt like it much. but justin helped me making sure i always had ice and acool cloth for my head. i made the comment that this was the first time i felt truely as gross and sweaty as they show in all the movies. thank heavens i could shower later.

they told me my dr would be making his rounds before going to the clinic for his usual day of apts. he would come in around 7. about 730 my nurse came in and checked me again. said i was about ready to push and about 9 cm dilated. holy cow! all on my own! im still in shock. but also on a high from not feeling as much pain and being sleep deprived. amniotic sac is still in tact by the way...

dr comes in about 10 min later. he confirms what the nurse said about how far i am and then breaks my water. since i am basically ready he said that once he broke my water he had a little bit of paperwork to fill out, but he would be back in 5 min and we would have this baby! alright. sounds good to me. compared to ryker and rylies birth i felt that this was really calm. there were a lot of other people around with the other 2. but with rex it was just me, justin, the dr and the nurse. while the dr was gone the nurse leisurely got the room ready. dr came back and  got all dressed in his gown and gloves and such. everyone was joking around the whole time. we joked that rylie had been so quick. 3 pushes and she was here. we had to "beat her record." dr said next contraction lets push. i started pushing and a few seconds left i hear the nurse say. "oh wow." then look! its hard to think while mid push but i opened my eyes to see head was out shoulders just about there. dr said relax and give just a hair more and he put rex on my chest. justin for to cut the cord. our baby boy was here! weighing in at 8 lbs 7 oz. 20 3/4 inches long. official time 7:58 am. Rex Keith Deitrick!

Since it went so fast i didnt tear at all. however the last cm was a little fast so they did give my 1 stitch on my cervix that was not clotting as quickly. but mostly we are both recovering great! The kids came to visit later that day after grandma got into town. justin brought them by for just a min, then took them to pic up mom at the airport. took them home to nap while my mom came to see me at the hospital. then they came to visit for dinner once they woke up. they loved to see the new baby. ryker understands a little more and calls him baby rex. since he was making squeaky noises in the bassinet ryker called him a squeaky toy in reference to patch in 101 dalmations 2. it was funny and that nickname has still stuck a week later. sorry rex. but you are now the squeaky toy. rylie kept looking over the bassinet and saying baby! baby! baby!

we love him so much. named after justins graddad on his fathers side, and the middle name of my grandad on my dads side. he is our perfect little boy. we are so excited to add him to the family. so excited that we have a second son! we love our family of 5. the kids love to hold him. only for a min or so, but they are good with him always. still being careful if we ever put him on the ground its not in running area.

middle of the night the first time i thought baby was coming. 39 weeks 3 days

this is me pretending to be happy in between contractions

epidurals are the best things ever. after 3 kids i know i just cant relax and will always get one. 

all the monitors and IVs. it looks so technical

hes here!

first measurments

so happy its all over

dad holding rex. looks much easier than his first pic with ryker

hes a pro now

since i couldnt move, justin was close and watching him while the took his measurments

it was so cute. once they laid him on my chest obviously he was crying. as they continued to clean things up for me justin came and started rubbing his head. Rex instantly quieted down. even now after a week and a half, rex still calms down almost immediately when justin comes and rubs his head. 

first family photo

first bath

all bundled up and looking like a smurf. I think in this pic he looks a little like Misty's Maya. 

rylie was so curious about the baby!

hanging with dad. 

first night at the hospital. poor justin. its so awful for him. the chair has an arch that makes sleeping impossible while its in the "lay" position. around midnight he grabbed all the extra pillows and made a bed on the floor. only moderately better. flat. but hard. i finally convinced him to join me on the bed at like 4. we slept till 630 when the lab people came in to take more blood samples. we were both so out. we sleep better together. even if the first half wasnt a horrid night sleep. 

chilling with baby boy

ready to go home

i love my boys!

these people are my favorite

our family of 5!

rylie practically snatches him when she wants to hold him. 

ryker and rylie are still learning to share. ryker just wanted to be involved with playing with the new baby. 

grandma with little rex

more bath  pics